Journal Theme: Feeling Unprepared

 
I always knew
He would die
But not...
This moment-
Not now.

~Ellen Olinger, In Memory of her father, Harold A. Borgh




As brutal as it may seem, death is an inevitable part of the cycle of life. Yet death, whenever it comes, shocks and surprises us. Can we be prepared? Probably not. It is unlikely we can ever be completely ready for the finality that death represents.

In this moment, my loved one's death is incomprehensible. Still, I know that I would never feel there was a right time for my loved one to die.
I can write about...
...a kind gesture someone made to comfort me.  

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